I consider myself something of an expert on apologies．A quiet temper has41me with plenty of opportunities to make them．In one of my earliest42，my mother is telling me，“Don’t watch the43when you say，I’m sorry．Hold your head up and look the person in the 44．so he’11 know you45it．” My mother thus made the key point of a(n)46apology：it must be direct．You must never47to be doing something else．You do not 48a pile of letters while apologizing to a person 49in position after blaming him or her for a mistake that turned out to be vour50．You do not apologize to a hostess，whose guest of honor you treat51，by sending flowers the next day without mentioning your bad52． One of the important things we should do for an 53 apology is a readiness to54the responsibility for our careless mistakes．We are used to making excuses．which leaves no55 for other person to56us．Since most people are open—hearted，the no—excuse apology is better．Leave both parties feeling57 about themselves．That，after all，is the58for every apology．It59 little whether the apologizer is wholly or only partly at fault：answering for one’s 60 encourages others to take their share of the blame． 阅读以上短文，回答161-180题。 第41题答案是__________
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